Sunday, November 11, 2012

10 Reasons Why It is Hard to Stay Connected With Those Back Home

This week after almost a month, I remembered to call my mom before it was too late her time and when she was actually home.  Just reading that sentence makes me feel like a bad daughter.  I love my mom and enjoy our chats but I always seem to remember to call her when it is in the middle of the night her time.  In the morning when the connection is best, I am getting the kids ready and off to school and my mind is on my to do list for the day.   It is the same with my sister, family, dear friends and others I am wanting to stay connected with.   Email and face book are nice but there is nothing like talking to a person to see how they are really doing.  So here is my 10 reasons (or excuses) on why it is hard for me to stay connected with those back home especially via Skype.

1. The obvious.  I live on the other side the world.  Making their day my night and vice versa.
2. The ball is usually in my court.  Most of the time I have to make the initiative because others are unsure of when I am available.
3. I don't make the time like I should.
4. I am better at email than Skype even though I always feel encouraged after a good chat on Skype.
5. Sometimes the internet causes calls to drop or slight delay in the conversation which takes extra concentration.
6. The challenge of staying connected with those back home but being fully here where God has us.  
7. All relationships take work especially long distance ones.
8. For this season, this is our home so even though we miss family and friends, we don't miss living in America at least for now.
9. Life here sometimes takes all my emotional energy leaving barely enough for my husband and kids let alone connecting with those back home.
10. Insecurities about relating.  My life is different now.  I am the same but different and so are my friends.  Will I understand them?  Will they understand me?

I am grateful for my family and friends and their patience with my communication or lack there of.  I look forward to reconnecting in person this next fall and seeing how God has worked in them since we last saw each other face to face.  In the meantiThis week after almost a month, I remembered to call my mom before it was too late her time and when she was actually home.  Just reading that sentence makes me feel like a bad daughter.  I love my mom and enjoy our chats but I always seem to remember to call her when it is in the middle of the night her time.  In the morning when the connection is best, I am getting the kids ready and off to school and my mind is on my to do list for the day.   It is the same with my sister, family, dear friends and others I am wanting to stay connected with.   Email and face book are nice but there is nothing like talking to a person to see how they are really doing.  So here is my 10 reasons (or excuses) on why it is hard for me to stay connected with those back home especially via Skype.

1. The obvious.  I live on the other side the world.  Making their day my night and vice versa.
2. The ball is usually in my court.  Most of the time I have to make the initiative because others are unsure of when I am available.
3. I don't make the time like I should.
4. I am better at email than Skype even though I always feel encouraged after a good chat on Skype.
5. Sometimes the internet causes calls to drop or slight delay in the conversation which takes extra concentration.
6. The challenge of staying connected with those back home but being fully here where God has us.  
7. All relationships take work especially long distance ones.
8. For this season, this is our home so even though we miss family and friends, we don't miss living in America at least for now.
9. Life here sometimes takes all my emotional energy leaving barely enough for my husband and kids let alone connecting with those back home.
10. Insecurities about relating.  My life is different now.  I am the same but different and so are my friends.  Will I understand them?  Will they understand me?

I am grateful for my family and friends and their patience with my communication or lack there of.  I look forward to reconnecting in person this next fall and seeing how God has worked in them since we last saw each other face to face.  In the meantime, I will try to be diligent in staying connected so that our first meeting face to face won't be quite so me, I will try to be diligent in staying connected so that our first meeting face to face won't be quite sohard.   Do you struggle staying connected with those you love that are overseas?  What are some things that work for you?

1 comment:

OliveTree said...

Staying connected is hard for me too! I used to write more, but now rely more on the phone. Sometimes I call my mom, who's retired, while I'm cooking dinner. It's morning her time, but this only works 'cause she's retired. Time changes are hard on communication.