1. Comparing myself to others never makes me feel good. I might feel good about myself for a moment but it is usually short lived.
“Comparison is the death of joy.”
― Mark Twain
2. Satan loves for God's people to compare themselves to others around them. If I am busy playing the comparison game, it will distract me from what God has for me.
3. No one wins. Someone will always look more stylish, have better behaved kids, or even keep a cleaner house. It is an exhausting game mentally and emotionally. Am I willing to let it take all that energy?
4. Relationships will always be shallow when the comparison game is being played. If I am busy comparing myself to others, my true self is hidden. It also keeps me from seeing who others really are in God's eyes.
5. Things aren't always as they seem. I see only one part of someone else's life. I don't see both the good and the bad. I think Lysa TerKeurst says it best in her book Unglued.
“I'm not equipped to handle what she has, both good and bad and what she has is always a package deal of both. In other words, I've been assigned a load I can handle.”6. The world misses out on seeing the real you or the real me He made us to be. When I am busy trying to live up to an imaginary standard or to fit in, I become someone I am not. The variety and uniqueness God gave each of us makes this world more beautiful and fun.
― Lysa TerKeurst, Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions
7. Comparison can blind me to the sin I need to deal with in my life.
“If my sinfulness appears to me to be in any way smaller or less detestable in comparison with the sins of others, I am still not recognizing my sinfulness at all. ... How can I possibly serve another person in unfeigned humility if I seriously regard his sinfulness as worse than my own?”8. When I feel like I don't measure up, I need to ask myself some questions. Why am I feeling this way? Are these feelings revealing an area of sin that I need to deal with? What standard am I using? Am I clinging to God's truth or what the world says?
― Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Life Together: The Classic Exploration of Faith in Community
9. Have someone in your life that speaks truth and perspective into your life. My husband does this. Sometime when I want him to and sometimes when I don't want him to. Either way, it is what I need. I also have friends that I can share my feelings with that won't judge me but will help me sort through the mess and give me perspective. When I compare myself to others, my thinking gets all out of sorts. Thank God for a husband and friends and sometimes even my kids that help put things into perspective.
10. When I am tempted to play the comparison game, I need to read Psalm 139. The Psalmist reminds me that God knows me inside and out. God is always there. He made me to be exactly how He wanted me to be. How can I not be good with that?
In what areas do you struggle with the comparison game? How do you stop playing the game?